You’re probably going to have a great time! Kinksters tend to be open-minded, creative folks who like to help new people feel welcome. A few tips to get started…

1. Read over the club rules to get a sense for what is and isn’t allowed, and also some clues about what you might see and hear.

2. You can look ahead at who might be there by finding the event listing on Fetlife.

3. It’s okay to just watch others play, or even stay in the social area the whole time and don’t watch. Go at your own pace. No one will make you do anything you’re not eager to do.

4. Manners and etiquette in the kink community can vary widely, but in general the biggest thing to remember is that consent is king, and we don’t shame anyone for what they like (unless they’re into that). You’ll be okay if you always ask before touching things or people, and don’t judge other people’s play.

5. Keep your eyes open and observe how people are relating to each other – for example, if someone is in a thick collar, looking at the floor, and staying a step behind their partner, they might engaging in speech restriction play and not able to greet you. Try speaking to their partner instead.

Above all keep an open mind and have fun. You might discover some of the best friends you’ve ever had.

Check out our calendar for upcoming events. We also post updates in our FetLife group, so be sure to follow us in case of last-minute changes.

Not always! Here's the breakdown:

• Discussion & Social Groups (Mon–Thurs): Open to everyone—no membership needed.

• Fresh Meet Fridays: Our newbie-friendly play party. Orientation starts at 8:30 p.m., and you don’t need to be a member to attend.

• Members-Only Play Parties (Saturdays): For members and their personal guests only. Guests must arrive with the member to check in.

• Knotty Party/QTs (First Friday): Open to all—come get tangled.

• Workshops, Theme Nights, Holiday Events: Check the individual event listing to see if it’s members-only or open to all.

• Socials & Discussions: Street-legal clothing.

• Workshops: Same—unless otherwise noted in the event description.

• Play Parties: Street-legal attire to the door, then wear what makes you feel fabulous—fetish gear, lingerie, sweats, or nothing at all. Keep scents low for those with sensitivities.

Yes, bring your favorite tools of the trade (paddles, floggers, fur, wax, etc.)—as long as they’re safe and consensual. No guns or gunplay, ever.
Don’t have toys yet? No worries! We have a shared toy rack full of fun stuff you can borrow. Just clean it after use.

• Discussions: $5 suggested donation (cash or Venmo)

• Play Parties:

  • Members: $0–$15 depending on membership level

  • Non-members/guests: $25 (cash, card, or Venmo)

• Workshops/Theme Nights: Check event description

You can find our full list of house rules here. Each event may also include additional info in the description—always read before you attend.

We’re at 318 N Callow Ave, Bremerton, WA—between Burwell and 6th, across from The Charleston. Look for deep red curtains and the street number above the door. Street parking available, out front and in the lot behind the building.

We have:

• A cozy front desk/reception

• A social lounge with couches, a fridge, and a lending library

• Four playrooms full of furniture and hardpoints

• A toy rack for party use

Accessibility: The front and back entrances are wheelchair-width. The bathroom and social room doorways are currently not. If you need specific accommodations, email us at kitsapaces@gmail.com.

FetLife RSVP numbers don’t tell the whole story. For example, Fresh Meet Fridays usually have 15–25 attendees, but turnout can vary. Some events are packed, some are more low-key. Show up for the vibe, not the headcount.

• Discussions/Socials: A moderator will greet you. Sign-in sheet at the door.

• Play Parties:

  • Check in at the front desk

  • Non-members: Fill out a waiver and show ID

  • Members: Show your membership card

  • Use the locker room to stash your stuff

  • New? Attend orientation before entering play spaces

  • Icebreaker games may be out to help you mingle!

You can join at any play party night before 11:00 p.m. (Fridays and Saturdays).

More info is on our membership page.

Attendance varies—anywhere from a handful to our max capacity. Workshops and themed events draw bigger crowds, so come early or grab presale tickets if offered.

Our guests range from 18 to 60+ years old, with a sweet spot in the 20–40ish zone. Expect a mix of dynamics, identities, and kink interests.

• Music: Yes, we play it—usually in the background. Volume/style may be adjusted by request.

• Lighting: Dimmed overhead lights with rope lighting in the dungeon. Lights can be set to solid colors if fading/flashing is a sensory concern.

• Social Area: Quieter, with standard lighting for anyone who needs a break.

We strictly prohibit discrimination or harassment of any kind.
ACES is a place for all identities and expressions—kinksters of all genders, sexualities, and dynamics are welcome.

Our volunteers (DMs and board members) are on hand at every event to ensure safety and accountability. If you experience anything concerning, report it right away—we’ll support you and take it seriously.

All scenes during play parties must remain visible to DMs and board members.
That said, we do have low-traffic areas for more privacy, and members can reserve the dungeon for private rentals. Learn more here.

• Rope-focused play: First Fridays of Odd Numbered Months

• QT Nights: First Friday of Even numbered Months. Play parties for Queer & Trans folx

• Theme Nights: Check listings for fun extras

• Interested in hosting or helping with a special interest night? Reach out to us or attend a board meeting to get involved. Private rentals are also an option for members.

You must be a member (or reciprocal member) in good standing.
Private rentals are only available when the space is not otherwise in use, and when volunteers are available to host.
Click here for rental info or email us at directors@kitsapaces.org.

We love our volunteers—they’re the heartbeat of ACES.
Opportunities include:

• Cleaning & laundry

• Social media graphics & updates

• Creating playlists & promoting events

• Event setup & teardown

• Theme night decorations

• Door & Dungeon Monitor training

DM us on FetLife or email us at kitsapaces@gmail.com. We’re here for your questions, ideas, and kinky curiosity.